You've likely turned yourself into a pretzel to please a toxic person. That's what they want. You can stand on your head and spit wooden nickels for a decade, and you cannot please them beyond a hot minute when they really want something for you.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Why discard hurts so much
- What you can take charge of
- What you actually deserve much more than you have received
- How being discarded can be the best thing ever
- 10 ways to resist returning to a narcissist by focusing on moving forward
Notice that! You were discarded. Not your idea. Not your choice. Not your timing. You're unhappy and focused on what you've lost. That's natural.
BUT, you're out! Being discarded by a narcissist, or a person who narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies, never feels good. But, you can feel much better when you focus on the ten ways to resist the urge to return to a toxic relationship!
Being discarded may have been your worst fear, but look! You're still alive, breathing and all. And, doing all that good stuff in spite of the fact that the #Hijackal, the #narcissist, the #sociopath discarded you. Great start!
Feel the pain, but don't wallow in it. There's a difference. Acknowledge the pain. Give it a name. Recognize the source. Then, turn around, face forward, and realize that, no matter how you got there, you're out of the emotional abuse! Yay!
The pull to return to a toxic person can be great, overwhelming even. It's what you know. It may be what your early life trained you to believe you deserve. Not true! You deserve SO much more than emotional abuse!
Listen to these ten ways to resist going back to a toxic person, a #Hijackal! Listen again...and, again...and....as many times as necessary to not go back. You now have the opportunity to be free of ridicule, blame, put-downs, insignificance, and begging for crumbs of affection. Woo-hoo!
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* * Always remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... from your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
I focus on helping my clients to stop tolerating abuse, and give them strategies for changing relationship dynamics.
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